3 BEST Gifts for your girlfriend

As a woman, I feel like a lot of men make mistakes when buying their girlfriends a gift. When you’ve been with your girlfriend for more than a year, it’s really time for you to give her something practical, something she can wear or use in real life. Pretty dolls, cute pens, flowers are welcome but only for the first few months of a relationship. So, what should you get her? Image

1. Tech Products

If your girlfriend happens to be tech savvy, get her a tech product or related accessories, like Iphone speaker dock, Ipod touch, Ipad, Kindle…you name it! She will love it and play with it for a long, long time and think of you whenever she uses it.

2. Wallet

 If your girlfriend had the same wallet for a long time, it’s time to buy her a new one! It doesn’t even have to be an expensive wallet. You can even buy her a card holder or coin purses instead if your budget is tight. She will think of you whenever she takes out her wallet!

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3. Shoes

Women innately love shoes. Some are quite addicted to buying shoes. You buy her heels, she will be loyal to you forever! Take her to the department store and buy her a new pair of shoes that she likes! (Women have different preferences when it comes to shoes.) Or you can secretly get her shoe size and buy her one that is exchangeable and refundable (in case it doesn’t fit her well!)

 

There are other great choices like clothes, bags, cosmetics, and so on, but these are the ones that me and my friends really liked! What was your favorite gift you received from your boyfriend?

How to Recover Trust Issues after Your Boyfriend Cheated.

It seems like a globally pertinent topic when we discuss why men cheat and how women can get over it. It applies to men and women all over the world, regardless of ethnicity, race, wealth, and background. We see men cheating on their lovely, amazing girlfriends all the time.

 

If this is your first time your boyfriend cheated on you, it could be quite a tragic experience and hurt your feelings tremendously. You would certainly be angry that a person you trusted betrayed you when you did nothing but to care for him and love him deeply.

 

I assume you’ve made one of the two choices after the incident: either break up with him or give him another chance.

 

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If you broke up with him, great, you don’t need to read the rest of this post, because you can just go ahead and find a better person. In some cases though, women decide to forgive a cheating boyfriend and give him a second chance because they love him so deeply already. (I strongly advise not to give him a “third” chance. If your boyfriend cheats on you twice, that means he doesn’t regret what he’s done to you and will even get more skillful at cheating next time he sees an opportunity.)

 

Even if you forgive your boyfriend, it’s difficult to forgive him quickly at the beginning. It would take time for him to earn your trust back. While you and your boyfriend would be trying hard to make it work, you would have trust issues that make it hard for you to maintain a healthy relationship with him.

 

Here are some questions you are likely to ask yourself when you’re having a trust issue:

  • What if he cheats again? 
  • Should I cheat too?
  • Do I need a back-up (in case he cheats again)?
  • Do I still love him after everything that’s happened?
  • Why did he cheat on me? What did I do wrong?
  • What’s special about this woman he flirted with that made him cheat?
  • How far did their relationship “really” go?
  • I think he didn’t tell me the whole story when he confessed me about the cheating incident. There must be more!! 
  • Did he sleep with her?
  • Did they have a secret trip together?
  • Did they do what we did together?
  • Should I meet her in person and ask her what really happened?

The list goes on and on. Panic and overreaction won’t subside anytime soon.

 

But there is hope! I’ve heard many stories of women who became happy again or even got happier with their boyfriend after the cheating incident. Once you cope with your trust issues, your relationship with your boyfriend can become stronger.

 

How to cope with your trust issues:

  • Stop asking the questions I listed above. Whether they slept together or had a secret trip together doesn’t matter! What’s past is past, he regrets what he’s done, and you’ve already decided to give him a second chance. So, stop asking questions that will only make you unhappy. Instead, start making a list of how you want your boyfriend to change in the future. Give him the list and give him some time to change.
  • Ask your boyfriend what specifically he thinks he did wrong. By making him talk about it, he will start to realize what not to do next time.
  • Ask your boyfriend how he would react if you cheated on him in the exact same way. Put him in your shoes!
  • This works like a charm: Make him call his cheating partner right in front of you, and make him confess the truth, how bastard and stupid he was, how much he wants to end this, and how much he loves his real girlfriend. And he tells her never to contact him again. Then, hang up the phone and erase her number and all histories between him and her on his phone and computer.
  • Ask yourself why the cheating incident happened. Sometimes, men cheat because their girlfriend din’t spend enough time with them, din’t care for him that much, avoided any physical contacts with him, looked down on him, and so on. We all want to be loved by someone we love. Give and take!
  • If you gained a lot of pounds after you started seeing him, and your hair and makeup look awful, that’s a bad sign. Lever give up your physical attractiveness just because you found the right guy! Remember how pretty you were in the first date with him?
  • Think optimistically. Half of the people on the planet are men. You can give him another chance and if things don’t work out well, you can just find another one.
  • HOW? If you are not ready to attend social events or hire a matchmaker, then online dating sites could help you out. There is a significantly greater number of men than women at online dating sites. This means if your boyfriend cheats on you again, you can just join online dating sites and get matched very easily the next day.
  • Hang out with your friends more often. Talk to them about what you’ve been going through. Talking to your friends can really help, rather than keeping it inside. Your friends can tell from your sad face anyway.

Feel free to share your experiences in the comment lines and tell us how you coped with the cheating incident! Women need to stay strong and not be the weaker one in a relationship.

For Girls:5 EASY steps to make men fall in love with you

When you are on a first date and you really like this guy, it’s pretty hard to hide your feelings. But it’s also important that you make him fall in love with you as well.

 

Here’s 5 easy steps you can use to make him get infatuated with you.

[Caveat: You will have to be a little bit manipulative (I would prefer the word “strategic”)!]

 

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1. Compliment him (but don’t lie)!

You know the book called “Compliments Make Even Whales Dance”? On a first date, you can make him happy by complimenting him on…pretty much anything you can find! His outfit, cute smile, great sense of humor, great voice, his awesome career or educational background, his awesome body…

(Caveat: You shouldn’t be lying when you’re complimenting your date. For example, if his clothes are shabby and seem like he bought them 10 years ago, you shouldn’t say his outfit looks amazing. He will notice that you don’t mean it!)


2. On a first date, wear sexy clothes (but not too showy)!

Wear something cute and girly, but add some sexiness to it. For instance, you can wear a cute blouse that emphasizes your narrow waist, or match it up with blue or black jeans that emphasize your curvy bust. Anything too showy is not very good on a first date if you are looking for a long-term relationship.

 

3. Develop active listening skills.

When he talks, show that you actually “care” and are curious to get to know more about him. Try leaning toward him to show that you’re listening, or at least nod often! A small change can really help boost your chance of being asked out for a second date!


4. Let him know you’re “compatible” with him.

If he likes to eat delicious food and you happen to be a good cook, then let him know (with enthusiasm)! Finding common interests and talking about them (and sharing your stories about them) will make the conversation much more engaging and fun!


5. Don’t call him first, but answer sincerely when he calls.

Be hard to get. Wait till he calls you and asks you out for a second date. But when you answer his call, you should show that you’re happy to hear back from him again (but don’t be too excited), implying that you had a lot of fun on the first date!

 

Easy, right? What are your strategies to make guys fall in love with you? I would love to hear from you!

For Men: 5 signs she’s just not that into you. oops!

There seem to be many articles out there talking about some possible signs which tell you that he’s NOT really into you. There’s even a movie called “He’s just not that into you” (good movie, by the way) which tells you all the signs which signal that he’s not really into you. I would like to share the “female” version of it for men because men seem to have a hard time figuring out whether their crush is interested in them.

 

 

1. No eye contacts

She’s not really listening well and seems to be thinking of “something else” when you speak. She seems to be avoiding making eye contact with you on a date. Bad sign! If she likes you, she will ask you a lot of questions and listen very carefully to get an idea of who you are.

 

2. Texting…late

She doesn’t answer your texts quickly. If you text her at 1:00 p.m. and she texts you back at night, it may be a sign that she is not that interested in you.

 

3. Her outfit sucks

On a second or third date, if she wears comfy outfits like sweatpants or school hoodies, or wears ZERO makeup, this may be a sign that she doesn’t really care about how she looks in front of you. If she is into you, she will try to wear something sexy or cute and wear makeup.

 

4. Acting like a guy

If she suddenly starts acting like a guy and talks as if she’s talking to a guyfriend, she may have lost an interest in you. If she likes you, she will try to act as demure and girly as possible.

 

5. Saving her $$$ 

She never spends a dime on a first, second, or even a third date. Never buys you a cup of coffee. I may be wrong, but most girls do that if they are “using” you. (They may even already have a boyfriend!)

 

What do you think? Some ways to find out whether she’s into you or not may be to 1) ask her close friends indirectly and see their reactions 2) say romantic things to her and see how she reacts 3) text/call her and see how friendly she replies. If all of these don’t work, just ask her out! Why not? 🙂