For Girls:5 EASY steps to make men fall in love with you

When you are on a first date and you really like this guy, it’s pretty hard to hide your feelings. But it’s also important that you make him fall in love with you as well.

 

Here’s 5 easy steps you can use to make him get infatuated with you.

[Caveat: You will have to be a little bit manipulative (I would prefer the word “strategic”)!]

 

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1. Compliment him (but don’t lie)!

You know the book called “Compliments Make Even Whales Dance”? On a first date, you can make him happy by complimenting him on…pretty much anything you can find! His outfit, cute smile, great sense of humor, great voice, his awesome career or educational background, his awesome body…

(Caveat: You shouldn’t be lying when you’re complimenting your date. For example, if his clothes are shabby and seem like he bought them 10 years ago, you shouldn’t say his outfit looks amazing. He will notice that you don’t mean it!)


2. On a first date, wear sexy clothes (but not too showy)!

Wear something cute and girly, but add some sexiness to it. For instance, you can wear a cute blouse that emphasizes your narrow waist, or match it up with blue or black jeans that emphasize your curvy bust. Anything too showy is not very good on a first date if you are looking for a long-term relationship.

 

3. Develop active listening skills.

When he talks, show that you actually “care” and are curious to get to know more about him. Try leaning toward him to show that you’re listening, or at least nod often! A small change can really help boost your chance of being asked out for a second date!


4. Let him know you’re “compatible” with him.

If he likes to eat delicious food and you happen to be a good cook, then let him know (with enthusiasm)! Finding common interests and talking about them (and sharing your stories about them) will make the conversation much more engaging and fun!


5. Don’t call him first, but answer sincerely when he calls.

Be hard to get. Wait till he calls you and asks you out for a second date. But when you answer his call, you should show that you’re happy to hear back from him again (but don’t be too excited), implying that you had a lot of fun on the first date!

 

Easy, right? What are your strategies to make guys fall in love with you? I would love to hear from you!

For Men: 5 signs she’s just not that into you. oops!

There seem to be many articles out there talking about some possible signs which tell you that he’s NOT really into you. There’s even a movie called “He’s just not that into you” (good movie, by the way) which tells you all the signs which signal that he’s not really into you. I would like to share the “female” version of it for men because men seem to have a hard time figuring out whether their crush is interested in them.

 

 

1. No eye contacts

She’s not really listening well and seems to be thinking of “something else” when you speak. She seems to be avoiding making eye contact with you on a date. Bad sign! If she likes you, she will ask you a lot of questions and listen very carefully to get an idea of who you are.

 

2. Texting…late

She doesn’t answer your texts quickly. If you text her at 1:00 p.m. and she texts you back at night, it may be a sign that she is not that interested in you.

 

3. Her outfit sucks

On a second or third date, if she wears comfy outfits like sweatpants or school hoodies, or wears ZERO makeup, this may be a sign that she doesn’t really care about how she looks in front of you. If she is into you, she will try to wear something sexy or cute and wear makeup.

 

4. Acting like a guy

If she suddenly starts acting like a guy and talks as if she’s talking to a guyfriend, she may have lost an interest in you. If she likes you, she will try to act as demure and girly as possible.

 

5. Saving her $$$ 

She never spends a dime on a first, second, or even a third date. Never buys you a cup of coffee. I may be wrong, but most girls do that if they are “using” you. (They may even already have a boyfriend!)

 

What do you think? Some ways to find out whether she’s into you or not may be to 1) ask her close friends indirectly and see their reactions 2) say romantic things to her and see how she reacts 3) text/call her and see how friendly she replies. If all of these don’t work, just ask her out! Why not? 🙂